‘Patience is a virtue’……usually. Sometimes, impatience gets your creative juices flowing, and new, fascinating, wonderful garden ideas cascade upon you! That’s what I’m telling my husband, as I show him yet another picture of a great idea I have…..he is not so keen. We work together in the garden, and work very well together, too. I know this surprises many who have told me that they NEVER get any help in the garden and have to do all the design, planting, digging, moving, building themselves. I’m sorry about that. I know I am very privileged to have my guy by my side, and, I gotta say, patience is his virtue!! I constantly think up ideas for the garden, sharing these with him, while he questions my sanity, and tries to figure out how in the world he will have time to build……whatever it is I have dreampt up! But he’s game, and good spirited, and although he mutters some times, he takes on most of my seemingly crazy ideas. He has admitted that some of the things he thought were crazy are actually really good ideas. (Imagine!!!!)
While we operated a landscape design and renovation company, I was able to create cool and unusual spaces for many clients, happily using my design training to whet the appetite of not-so-enthusiastic gardeners, who wanted ‘something nice’. I cannot tell you how many times I heard the phrase “I want something with no maintenance, but nice”. Ummmmmmmm……..and now I am stuck explaining to them that there is no such thing as ‘no maintenance’ in gardening! Never. Ever. But, you learn to read between the lines, gently explaining things, and learn that what they actually mean is that they don’t want to be tied to the garden every moment of every day. Okay. No problem. I can do that. After all, I maintain a very, very large area, and it is what I call low maintenance. I employ good horticulture practices, thinking always of the impact on our carbon footprint, and the benefits that are not just for me but for any other beneficial (and sometimes not so beneficial, but cute) creature who loves my garden. But, while I am busily planning someone else’s garden with new perennial beds, water features, great design elements, my husband is looking over my shoulder, saying ‘how do you expect me to build that?’ and then we would have a conversation about the building and installation process, going over details of what each step entailed. When we both were happy, the plan would go back to the client for input. Good team work.
Don’t get me wrong here: building and installation is not something that only my husband did or does. We work side by side, carting about with blocks for retaining walls, pavers for patios, shovels, buckets…..and we both operate our little Bob Cat, which is a mini loader walk behind version. We have worked together on many other projects besides gardens, but, truly, this is the place that we work together the best. We both love it, and although it is not always fun or easy, have a vision of the end result, knowing it will bring someone great joy, and a connection to the earth on which we reside. Plus, I am happiest in the garden, so that may have a little something to do with it……just saying.
And yes, I am lucky. On many levels. As an avid gardener, I am fortunate to have someone who shares my dream. As a wife, I am fortunate to have someone who is a patient as he is! As a worker, I am fortunate to have someone bigger and stronger than me, because those stones can get mighty heavy!!
But, today I am creatively thinking about the containers…..and the seeds that need to hit the ground soon: sweet peas can go in any time now! Easter is usually my target……and I am perusing some other garden blogs, flipboard and magazines to take the edge off of my impatience to be outdoors in the dirt….soon.